Category: Family
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I Was Fine Until I Wasn’t
Many years ago, I spent most of my birthday walking alone by the sea after shouting at my husband, swearing like I had never sworn before, and leaving him at home with our one-year-old daughter. If someone had asked what happened, the shortest answer would have been that he asked me what we were having…
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Love Has No Weight, Unlike His Head
One night, just before we went to sleep, my husband put his head on me. He was teasing me, so he didn’t exactly put it down gently. He just dropped his head on me and stayed there. “That’s heavy,” I said. “That’s love,” he replied. Cute. But also, my neck was hurting. I laughed, but…
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I chose Mine, You have Yours.
A couple of weeks ago, I spent almost two hours arguing with the manager of a fast-food restaurant over a few missing burgers. It all started innocently enough. I was planning to pick up dinner myself, but when I opened the restaurant’s app, I noticed they had started offering delivery in our area. I thought…
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“Isn’t It Selfish?”
My two teenagers argued over a handheld game console, and like most sibling arguments, it looked pretty straightforward at first. After listening to both of them, I realized they weren’t actually disagreeing about the console. They were disagreeing about one sentence they had both understood differently. Neither of them was trying to be unfair. Neither…
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The Omlette I Still Haven’t Made
There are things many Asian children grow up hearing so often that they become part of the background of life. Be grateful to your parents. Especially to your mother. She carried you for nine months. She sacrificed everything for you. And honestly, none of these things are false. Parents do sacrifice a lot, especially mothers.…
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The invisible career of motherhood
What is your career plan? I stopped asking myself those questions when I decided to have children. Not because I threw my life away, but because I understood that raising children was already a long-term project. A project that would require almost all of my energy, attention, patience, organization, and emotional availability for many years.…
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Catching Something Else
Last week, I downloaded Pokémon GO. Ten years late. My husband laughed when he saw it, and I can’t really blame him. There was a time when people filled the streets chasing Pokémon, when parks were crowded with players and it felt like a shared moment across the world. That moment has passed, and here…
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Not Just a Joke
Some words sound like jokes. But when they are repeated often enough, they don’t feel light anymore. It wasn’t about what was said. It was about what slowly changed between them. There is a moment when we realize that “just joking” is not always harmless. And that’s where the real conversation begins. #motherhood #familydynamics #siblingrelationship…
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When Truth Take a Day Off
We spend a lot of time teaching our children to tell the truth. And we insist on it. From when they are very young, we repeat it in simple ways. Be honest. Tell me what really happened. Don’t say something if it isn’t true. It’s not just about correcting a behavior, it’s about building something…
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It was never Paris
After that week, there was still some tension between us. When my husband came home from his trip, I waited until the house was quiet and then told him I was sorry for upsetting him. Not because I thought I was wrong to feel what I felt, but because I wanted us to talk calmly.…